Monday, December 06, 2004

That wasn't me, I wasn't even there

We are what we do. I don’t buy the idea that sometimes our choices are made by something other than our true selves.

It's always the poor choices we disown. We never say:
Yes, I *did* give a lot of money to build that hospital, but that's not really me -- usually I'm a selfish so-and-so.

We say things like:
I don’t know why I [hit my wife, slept with my best friend’s husband, robbed the 7-11] -- that’s just not LIKE me.

I say crap. That is *exactly* like you -- in fact, it *was* you -- at least in that case at that time.

You can say “I hold as valuable standards and goals that I don’t always live up to.”
You can say “I have lots of other good traits and qualities.”
You can say “I’ve learned a lesson, and will never do X again.”

But trying to draw a distinction between what we are “really” like and what we do is mostly hypocrisy or self-delusion.

Now you know.

2 Comments:

At Tue Dec 07, 09:40:00 AM PST, Anonymous Anonymous said...

ssshhh! are you trying to blow my cover here?? i have a whole separate person i pull out when i'm doing stuff that's not like me. it was awesome, and now here you are saying that both people are actually the same. at this rate, i may have to resort to the full-blown multiple-personality defense. this is not good. -Kire

 
At Fri Dec 10, 02:47:00 AM PST, Blogger mamacita said...

Here's a real comment here, Bryan. Not just one telling you to get more sleep. I totally agree with this post. We are what we do. I want to say more on this but it's 2:45 am.

 

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